The conversation started after the parent of a student called asking how their child could lock down a job before they graduated in the spring semester. I was shocked to see how a parent of an an already adult was still assisting them in this process. It got me and my co-worker talking about our parents and how involved they are in our career growing process. It appeared that both of our parents weren’t really involved in our career success plan.
Not to blame them either, both of my parents didn’t have the chance to attend college and so they don’t really know the ropes of attending a university and how important it is to have a job lined up before you graduate. They don’t know many of the resources that I have offered to me. They also don’t understand all the stress I’ve been having trying to receive an internship.
I wondered, “how must my parents feel?” To not be completely in the loop of things. To not know what future, I am shooting towards or maybe not knowing what they can do to help me get there. I explain as much as I can to them, but even I am lost on my future career plans. Nothing is set and stone on my future and I find it hard to speak with my parents because they wouldn’t know much about the world I am learning to be in.
Although my parents don’t know all the resources open to me as a student they worry about my future and the steps I am taking to get there. They constantly ask me if I am enjoying my major classes, if I feel comfortable being away from home and even if I enjoy my job. I can see now how the parent would call an office for their child’s concern.
From this week’s event, I have learned that I need to do my best to keep my parents in the loop of things, no matter how small or minimal. They want to know how I am doing and they want to know how they can help. They also want to just make sure their daughter is set and stone.
Through this I have decided that I will make my best to speak with them regularly about my major, my current plans and my ideas. That way I can reference back to them with any advice I need as well as stopping them from worrying so much about my future.
-- Sheyla Meza